Do you ever lie awake at night in worry or doubt or fear over some aspect of your life? Is there something you wish were different or better? Do you feel like something is holding you back from having optimal health, following your dreams, making more money, or having amazing relationships? If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s likely a subconscious belief is holding you back.
Once you identify what it is that you want, you will be able to find the subconscious belief that is limiting you from creating it in your life NOW. Whatever this belief is does not serve you any longer and needs to be transmuted into one that does. It is important to be gentle with your subconscious, as it’s the most powerful part of your mind (it has 97% of the processing power). This means that your conscious mind has only 3% of your processing power. The power then, of your subconscious mind, is possibly a million times greater than that of the conscious mind. Wow! Imagine the possibilities when you spend some time clearing your old, limiting beliefs and thought patterns?
I want to say that having desires for something in your life to change or be “better” does not mean you should focus on what you don’t have. Quite the contrary, but in order to get to the place of bringing those things into your life, you must have the awareness of what it is that you want to change, so the focus can then be on what you do want. Remember, what you focus on expands. All the while, the most important thing we can do is remain grateful for that which we do have. Why would the Universe give us more of anything if we only complain about our life?
Recently, I caught a cold. Whenever I’m not in optimal health, I ask my Higher Self, “What’s the message/lesson here? Why am I sick?” The answer is usually to SLOW DOWN! Which I promptly listen and get my buns in bed. This time however, it felt as though something else was also going on. So I asked and asked, “What else? What am I suppose to learn?” The answer came that my body was in protest, in protest to all the work I had been doing, and in reaction to transitioning to a higher level of being. You see, I’m in the middle of an very intense online business course and working non-stop on my ideas and projects (shout out to Marie Forleo’s B-School, it’s amazing for any entrepreneur!).
I’m in the process of creating an online coaching program that will teach people how to self-heal from chronic conditions such as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Autoimmune Disorders, Arthritis, Cancer, etc. I am SO excited about this program that I’ve been working and growing and expanding myself at a very fast pace, and my little Ego was expressing fear in that expansion and growth. The Ego loves things just as they are, and in order to change and move beyond where we are, we must challenge it. So, in protest my body decided to come to a complete halt and deter me from working. This is also called Resistance by Steven Pressfield in his book, The War of Art (a great read for any entrepreneur or artist). Resistance keeps us from our work by any means possible, so we have to be aware of it and forge ahead (and also rest and get well in the meantime).
What does all of this have to do with subconscious beliefs? It was my subconscious belief that lead to the Resistance of growing in my business and my life. I dug deep to find what was there, and a small voice whispered “You can’t do it! Who do you think you are? You’re not good enough!” Now, consciously I do not believe these lies, but it doesn’t matter, because my subconscious does. What was my next step? To work through this negative though pattern to one that serves me and helps me reach my goals and dreams, all by having a nice conversation directly with my subconscious mind.
I took these steps from Cathy Collautt, Ph.D., metaphysician and manifesting consultant, as she explains them in an episode of Marie TV (http://www.marieforleo.com). Here I will use the subconscious belief that “I’m not good enough,” as it specifically relates to creating my program for self-healing.
Step 1: Be humble, trust the subconscious and what it has to say. Recognize and listen.
In my case, I heard, “You aren’t good enough/smart enough/talented enough!” I didn’t judge it, I just listened and accepted what it said, so that I could then move through it.
Step 2: “Interview” your subconscious to get details on what the specific fears are, hear its case, and acknowledge what it says.
What are the specific fears around my creating this program and putting it out in the world? Why do I feel, on a subconscious level, that I’m not good enough? I listened, and it told me this: 1. I’m not tech savvy enough to create an online program. 2. Someone else can do it better than me. 3. I will be vulnerable in the world, and open to criticism from others. 4. Will the program really work and help people? 5. The market is saturated with healers; I won’t stand out.
Step 3: With these details, make a promise to the subconscious. Work with it, not against it. Honor what it says. This is a gentle, effective way to get it to listen to new information once you present it.
I said to my subconscious in this case, “I hear you, I understand your fears that I’m not good enough to create this program and expand my business. I know there are many others doing this work, but I can do it too. Every time I feel this doubt or fear, I will give you examples/evidence of why I can go ahead with the work. It is my passion and purpose to help people live a better quality life in health, and I will do this work no matter what. I will do the work even when I’m scared. I will do this work because I am scared. Because it is in my soul and heart to complete this program, it will help people. Anytime I feel overwhelmed with the technical side of creation, I will ask for help, and I can figure anything out. It’s ok to be vulnerable to the world, that means I am doing important work.”
*In The War of Art, Pressfield addresses self-doubt: “Self-doubt can be an ally. This is because it serves as an indicator of aspiration. It reflects love, love of something we dream of doing, and desire, desire to do it. The counterfeit innovator is wildly self-confident. The real one is scared to death.” He also says of fear, “The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.”
Step 4: Give examples to your subconscious so it has evidence that what you want in your life is possible.
I told my subconscious that there are many entrepreneurs who run very successful online programs and businesses. Each one of these people started from nothing and worked for what they have. They are not more talented, intelligent, connected, or fortunate. They simply did the work. They showed up every day with patience and persistence and did the work. I can do that too. Also, there does not yet exist a program like mine, and people need it! Only I can do what I can do, and no one else. It’s a disservice to the world if I don’t share the work that wants to come through me!
I can also find specific examples of people who are doing similar programs and put pictures of them around me. I can visualize everyday the life I want and know that it’s already here.
Step 5: Solidify and Affirm. Remind your subconscious everyday of what is possible! Use affirmations, pictures, or vision boards to keep reminding it of what you want.
I myself have a vision board, and every morning during my morning ritual I look at it. I also spend at least a few minutes visualizing what I want. Sometimes it’s next week, sometimes it’s three years in the future. I always play out a scene in my mind of what I’m doing, who I’m with, and most importantly how I feel. The emotions you feel during visualization are what sinks down into your subconscious to replace the old, non-serving thought patterns.
I also use affirmations everyday like, “I am so happy and grateful that my online business is a success, and I am helping people everywhere!” Or, ” I travel the world and spread the truth to awaken humanity (to affirm my desire to travel and spread knowledge).” To create your own affirmation, just think of what you want and make it so in a statement. It’s important to say it as if it is already happening. This way the Universe will bring it to you because you are in the vibration of already having it. I recently met a woman who set an alarm on her phone throughout the day to remind her to breath, or be grateful, or say an affirmation. You can set these reminders for anything you’d like, and pretty soon you won’t even need them as it will become an automatic part of your day!
Are you ready to work through one of your subconscious beliefs??? Take action and follow these 5 simple steps right NOW! It doesn’t work unless you work it! This process can be used for ANY issue you’re having! Any health challenge or otherwise.
Now, I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below and tell us what ONE subconscious belief is that is holding you back from living the life of your dreams! Or, tell us what affirmation you chose to help you transform the belief! Or both!
We are all in this together, and there is a great community of support here for you! Thank you for your willingness to share and be open.